Relentless: From Good to Great to Unstoppable (Tim Grover Winning Series)
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If you want to go somewhere new, you have to throw out the tired, old map and stop traveling the same road to the same dead end.
Sorry, there’s no off-season when you’re serious about being a winner.” “Just show up, work hard, and listen. That’s your part of the deal. Do the work.” Two bulls stand on top of the hill, a father and a son, looking down on a field of cows below. The son can't wait: "Come on, let's go, we gotta run down and get some of those cows!" And the father looks at him slowly, wisely, and says, "No, let's walk down and get all the cows." Instinct, not impulse." You can get away with this sort of thing in a review, if you want to — creating dramas in which you, the critic, get to burst in waving a little sword, setting the world right. But can this safe, self-certain, self-congratulatory voice sustain a novel? “Fake Accounts” is, essentially, many of these interactions strung together. Oyler’s characters are unapologetic foils, useful idiots babbling on about “wellness” and turmeric who allow our brilliant, irascible narrator to rant eloquently at familiar targets, like patronizing self-professed “male feminists,” bourgeois white women who insist they are oppressed.
Something goes awry in your business or job? It’s your job to clean up the mess. You’re in charge. You take responsibility. You own this. You got this. You get it done. You fix it. Indulging in primal desires allows you to find “success” (that is, something to conquer or exert control over) even outside of your discipline, according to Grover. This way, you won’t get out of practice or lose your commitment to constantly seeking success even while relieving pressure or seeking pleasure.
Grover explains that you can activate intense focus by finding a challenge that stirs up anger in you and forces you to focus intently on beating it. Shortform note: Psychological research agrees with Grover’s argument that using stress as a tool helps you succeed, and suggests that, beyond helping you avoid fear of failure, it also benefits your mental and physical health. One study found that those who think of stress as a positive, motivating force focused less on negative emotion and had less cardiovascular stress.) How to Productively Pressure YourselfHaving a story read to us has calmed humans down for centuries. It’s why we were read to in bed as toddlers, and it’s the reason the Von Trapp children all rush into Maria’s room as soon as the thunderstorm hits in The Sound of Music. Seeing as we’re living through a particularly stressful time right now, we thought we’d take the opportunity to ask some of our favorite authors about the audiobooks they like to have read to them when they’re feeling particularly frazzled, frenetic, or frustrated. In states with the largest gaps between the rich and the poor, rich parents spend an even larger share of their incomes on things like lessons and private school, found Danny Schneider, a sociologist at the University of California, Berkeley, and colleagues in a May paper. Parents in the middle 50 percent of incomes have also increased their spending. “Lower socioeconomic status parents haven’t been able to keep up,” he said. You get a small window to become a legend, you have the rest of your life to act like a kid. Push it as far as you can. You will have decades ahead to enjoy what you built for yourself.